Comments on: Blockage.

By: Candy

Candy — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 13:47:50 +0000

Linda – I’m just trying to break the continuing cycle of posting, or feeling the need to post. Just so I can come back energized. I don’t want it to feel like a full-time job. But I will post soon.

April – You’re right, they aren’t worth responding to. I should know better. Sometimes I fly off the handle when someone continues to harass me and rather than ignore it, I fuel the fire. That does nobody any good. But deleting comments is so difficult, because I want to keep this blog totally honest. I want everything out in the open and everyone to have an equal say. But at the same time, I want this blog to be pleasant too. And, I want to WANT to blog everyday. I’ve been such a drag lately :P

Catalina – Thanks so much for your comment. It’s difficult to know exactly how I’m doing with the readers. I get comments both on the blog and in person, and comments on totally different ends of the spectrum. If I post ramblings, some people say they ignore them, skip reading that day, and wait for a recipe. A bunch of you said you enjoy reading posts without pictures too. That’s why I’m trying to redesign the blog for different sections. That’s right, I’m segregating my readers! But you’re all allowed to wander aimlessly, of course.

Jen – I got you beat – 42 declined, 42 rejected. Always a 50% chance on foodgawker! Haha. Of course, your photos are amazing, so I don’t understand how some of these places judge photos. I’ll post again, I need to get over feeling stuck, and soon.

Hummingbird – Thanks so much. Half the time, I debate whether I should delete those specific posts…but I keep them up for some reason. Even though I’m slightly embarassed. Because showing vulnerability, in a way, shows weakness. But ironically, hiding vulnerability shows weakness too. Soooooooo….I’ll just be the blogger that doesn’t have it quite together in life :P

Sean – It’s funny that the advice I give to people about writing, is the advice I struggle to take myself. Do as I say, but not as I do. And you’re right, as long as I like a post then it’s good enough. It doesn’t matter if everyone doesn’t understand it, or isn’t happy about it. I need to snap out of this rut and just do it.

By: Happyface13

Happyface13 — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 07:35:28 +0000

Hey Candy
One of those people who just love u to write …. ANYTHING – totally me! I hope you keep writing and blogging and inspiring others as you have me, but i also hope this blog doesnt become a chore for you because once it is it isnt fun anymore. And that would be a very sad thing. If you worry about whether your post is going to be good or not just ask urself do i like it? if the answers yes go for it! You only live once and sure people are gonna try and bring u down but hearing a little of ur life story i know youve had some hard knocks and a little rant from an ex friend? pfft ur tougher than that!
Your loyal reader,
Sean!

By: Hummingbird Appetite

Hummingbird Appetite — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 00:58:01 +0000

One of the things that makes your blog unique is that you’re willing to share your fears, your deepest sadness. That shows vulnerability. It makes you 3-dimensional in the 2-dimensional world of the Internet. I think that’s why your blog will prevail beyond the average food blog.

By: Jen @ My Kitchen Addiction

Jen @ My Kitchen Addiction — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 15:11:25 +0000

Candy – I know that it can definitely be difficult to maintain the blogging… I know I struggle with that sometimes (especially after my 20th Foodgawker rejection in a row)! Just for the record, I love reading your blog and look forward to more of your recipes and blog posts – when you’re good and ready! :)

By: Catalina Kolker

Catalina Kolker — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:09:03 +0000

Candy-I understand how you feel and I want to tell you that people do love you for how unique you are.
They love you for your amazing pictures, for your variety, for your ramblings, for your recipes, for how funny you are, for the courage to speak out your mind at all times.
I like what you said in one post: “because I’m spoiled like that”. I smile every time I remember that.
You are a wonderful writer and you should not feel down, it’s not worth it.
I come look at your website many times every day. Just because.
And so do many other people.
Smile, please.
Love your name too, by the way.
You smiling already ?!?
:)

By: April in CT

April in CT — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 00:24:53 +0000

Ditto what Chiara and Linda said.

The people who would pick apart a blog that is your personal outlet are the sort of folks not worth the time to respond to. I come here because I enjoy your wit, your recipes and good pictures are just an added bonus. Your pictures could be complete crap and I’d still read. You shouldn’t ever feel pressure to blog because you feel you HAVE to, do it because you WANT to and only WHEN you want to. :o)

By: Linda

Linda — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:17:15 +0000

I just hope you won’t take off for too long. I really enjoy reading what you write and seeing your lovely photographs. The variety in your blog is very refreshing.

By: Candy

Candy — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:05:08 +0000

Chiara – You’re absolutely right. Well said.

By: Chiara

Chiara — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 19:47:53 +0000

Candy,
as a professional writer I can tell you one thing: you have to be tough skinned. You cannot make everyone happy, and there will always be those who are ready to criticize. The point is, keep your integrity as a writer and write for nobody other than your self. Screw the ratings and the ethnicity of the readers/recipes and foodgawker and so on. Write for yourself. And take pictures for yourself. Your posts are funny and informative and your pictures are more beautiful than most pictures you see around. Don’t stress and if you don’t feel like writing take a few days off. Readers will be fine and so will be your blog!