Will choosing the wrong color scheme for a nursery mess up my kid?
I have a hard enough time buying myself clothes and matching outfits, let alone for a baby. As I was looking for things to add to a baby registry, I ended up with 4 different bedding sets (with 4 different color schemes) and a plethora of quasi-useful thermometers. Should I go with rectal (*shudder*), ear, forehead, or armpit? WHAT DO I DO?! Am I a bad mother if I choose a crib thatâs less money than another one? Am I weak because I canât lift a 2 ton stroller travel system in and out of my trunk without a forklift? Do I really need a nasal aspirator to suck out snot from my babyâs nose? Why canât I use a normal nail clipper instead of a baby nail clipper? Why are you asking me about my boobs and whether I plan to use them for breastfeeding? Why are people making bets that Iâll be begging for an epidural (especially from those who have never been pregnant)? Why are you asking me how much weight Iâve gained?
Iâm not expecting any answers for these questions, it was mainly written as rhetorical and comical ranting. Though Iâm confident in my decisions about basic child-rearing, and that Iâll learn most of it as I go, Iâm not confident in choosing a color scheme. I didnât realize colors were such a big deal. I was just going to pick something gender neutralâ¦with yellows and greens. Iâm not a big pink lace and frilly ruffles type of person. Sure, weâll accept anything people want to give usâ¦and Iâll bet most of it will be pink. Pink for girl, with the words âDaddyâs little princessâ written across every article of clothing using plastic rhinestones. I almost threw up a little in my mouth just thinking about it. Iâm sure my husband would be embarrassed too. I donât think either of us want to raise a princess.
That doesnât mean Iâd go to the extent of only buying gray, black and brown androgynous potato sack-like uniforms (I doubt they even exist). It also doesnât mean I refuse to let her wear ANY pink clothing. On top of all that, did you know that pink is psychologically the most unsettling and disturbing color in the spectrum? And blue is the most soothing? Something for you to think aboutâ¦.
I know that Iâm putting way too much thought into this, when I should be researching the ideal nasal aspirator with successful capability of snot sucking with gentle pressure.
Speaking of colors, Iâm getting a bit tired of hearing âOh, your baby will be so pretty, since itâs bi-racial.â WTF? I hear this at least once a week. Even before we were pregnant, even before Chris and I were married. I mean, I guess itâs better than hearing weâll have an ugly baby. I know this is meant as a compliment, but it offends me. Does that mean if I married an Asian, our baby wouldnât be as pretty? Is she prettier because her skin color will be a little lighter? Her eyes less slanted? What are you trying to say, huh?
Itâs probably just me, but I want my daughter growing up understanding that anyone can be pretty, but being intelligent goes farther in life. Iâm not raising a bimbo.
My best guess as to what the baby will look like once it comes out of the womb.