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Will choosing the wrong color scheme for a nursery mess up my kid?

Will choosing the wrong color scheme for a nursery mess up my kid?

I have a hard enough time buying myself clothes and matching outfits, let alone for a baby. As I was looking for things to add to a baby registry, I ended up with 4 different bedding sets (with 4 different color schemes) and a plethora of quasi-useful thermometers. Should I go with rectal (*shudder*), ear, forehead, or armpit? WHAT DO I DO?! Am I a bad mother if I choose a crib that’s less money than another one? Am I weak because I can’t lift a 2 ton stroller travel system in and out of my trunk without a forklift? Do I really need a nasal aspirator to suck out snot from my baby’s nose? Why can’t I use a normal nail clipper instead of a baby nail clipper? Why are you asking me about my boobs and whether I plan to use them for breastfeeding? Why are people making bets that I’ll be begging for an epidural (especially from those who have never been pregnant)? Why are you asking me how much weight I’ve gained?

I’m not expecting any answers for these questions, it was mainly written as rhetorical and comical ranting. Though I’m confident in my decisions about basic child-rearing, and that I’ll learn most of it as I go, I’m not confident in choosing a color scheme. I didn’t realize colors were such a big deal. I was just going to pick something gender neutral…with yellows and greens. I’m not a big pink lace and frilly ruffles type of person. Sure, we’ll accept anything people want to give us…and I’ll bet most of it will be pink. Pink for girl, with the words ‘Daddy’s little princess’ written across every article of clothing using plastic rhinestones. I almost threw up a little in my mouth just thinking about it. I’m sure my husband would be embarrassed too. I don’t think either of us want to raise a princess.

That doesn’t mean I’d go to the extent of only buying gray, black and brown androgynous potato sack-like uniforms (I doubt they even exist). It also doesn’t mean I refuse to let her wear ANY pink clothing. On top of all that, did you know that pink is psychologically the most unsettling and disturbing color in the spectrum? And blue is the most soothing? Something for you to think about….

I know that I’m putting way too much thought into this, when I should be researching the ideal nasal aspirator with successful capability of snot sucking with gentle pressure.

Speaking of colors, I’m getting a bit tired of hearing “Oh, your baby will be so pretty, since it’s bi-racial.” WTF? I hear this at least once a week. Even before we were pregnant, even before Chris and I were married. I mean, I guess it’s better than hearing we’ll have an ugly baby. I know this is meant as a compliment, but it offends me. Does that mean if I married an Asian, our baby wouldn’t be as pretty? Is she prettier because her skin color will be a little lighter? Her eyes less slanted? What are you trying to say, huh?

It’s probably just me, but I want my daughter growing up understanding that anyone can be pretty, but being intelligent goes farther in life. I’m not raising a bimbo.

whatwillshelooklike

My best guess as to what the baby will look like once it comes out of the womb.

*shudder*


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13 thoughts on “Will choosing the wrong color scheme for a nursery mess up my kid?”

  • Random thoughts:

    Ah, and let the emails pour in 😛

    You mean no one was asking about your boobs before all this? You must’ve been doing something wrong! 😉

    I get that as well from a MIL who can’t wait to have a “Korean baby” – yes, my husband is that Caucasian kind of color as well and yes, those are her exact words.

    I like the new layout!

  • Neighbor – Yes, most of these questions are rather intrusive. And some of them aren’t directed towards me, but my husband. I can’t understand why someone would ask HIM how I plan to use MY boobs for the baby. Sometimes it freaks me out that there are random people out there who know about my boob usage that I’ve never met. I bet they know how much I weigh too.
    ….and Caucasian kind of color? What does that mean? 😛

  • Oh, I love you so much right now hahaha. I’m so glad you are against pink and ‘princesses’!! I love that you’re going to use gender neutral colors. I don’t see the reason behind making gender stereotypes before the baby can even pop out or even say a word. How unfair. Let her be free to be herself based on her own personality, not on her gender. Let her love whatever color she wants when she can make that choice. In the meantime, I’m glad you’ll teach her to proud of who she is and how she looks for herself, not because she is a biracial female. I agree with your sentiments about the “why does biracial have to equal pretty” argument, too.

  • Oh, I love you so much right now hahaha. I’m so glad you are against pink and ‘princesses’!! I love that you’re going to use gender neutral colors. I don’t see the reason behind making gender stereotypes before the baby can even pop out or even say a word. How unfair. Let her be free to be herself based on her own personality, not on her gender. Let her love whatever color she wants when she can make that choice. In the meantime, I’m glad you’ll teach her to proud of who she is and how she looks for herself, not because she is a biracial female. I agree with your sentiments about the “why does biracial have to equal pretty” argument, too.

    I love the new layout. So elegant and simple.

  • Memoria – Pink isn’t…bad….just grossly overused 😛 To the point that it’s sickening. If she does like pink when she grows up, fine. But it seems wrong to show her, girls wear pink, and boys wear blue. But anyway, still tweaking the new layout. Seems to be working a lot better than before, glad you like it!

  • Haha, just my nonsensical way of saying he’s Caucasian. 😛 It just makes me cringe when she says that though. However, she luckily hasn’t mentioned it as frequently ever since the “incident” (the whole health thing).

    Anyway, it’s been fun reading your experience so far – thanks for sharing (even at the expense of probably having people tell you this and that and pointing out things that THEY think you’re doing wrong – which I hope they aren’t)! You guys will be amazing parents! 🙂

  • Haha! I’m Vietnamese and my hubby is Caucasian too so we get that all of the time! I call our baby a “Eurasian”. People mean well when they want to talk about your boobs, how the baby will eat, touch your belly, wonder why you named your baby that, wonder why I painted our daughter’s room blue, etc. It just goes with the territory and just smile and let them talk and know that you will do what you want anyway. I’m using cloth diapers and people like to laugh at the idea and make bets as to how long I keep it up. But as long as you and your hubby are on the same team, who cares about those people. You know what’s best for YOUR baby. Let it roll off and smile cause you’ll be the best Mom no matter what anyone has to say! Our baby girl is due on June 18. Here’s a link to our nursery for a different twist on a baby girl’s room: http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=150780&id=636257405&l=8216410220

    Good luck!!!

  • Neighbor – Apparently the one major thing I’m doing wrong is ‘walking too much’. Which is why my baby kicks a lot. Which I thought was a good thing! Aside from that, I usually let everything else roll off my back, I just think a lot of things a personal and unless it’s a good friend or family member, people have no business asking certain things.

    Chau – I know they mean well. Most of it is pure curiousity, which is fine by me if someone is interested because they just want to know. I just don’t like strangers asking about things, then judging me for it. But you’re right, it comes with the territory. I looked at your photo album and I can’t believe how beautiful your nursery looks! I love the color scheme, and you managed to use blue AND pink in such a classy way. I also can’t believe you made all those birds and sewed the curtains, etc. Thanks for the inspiration! Good luck to you too and your new arrival in a few weeks!

  • Don’t worry, the boob comments never stop. Once people are over asking about breastfeeding, they’ll start asking you if you plan to get a boob job to “fix” your post-baby boobs, even if they are as awesome as ever.

    Chau, your nursery is gorgeous!! We still get questions about the cloth diapers, and our firstborn has been in them for almost 2 years, lol.

  • I think people are just curious and don’t realize they are out of line because in most cases pregnant women love talking about being pregnant.
    I’m also Eurasian and my boyfriend is Norwegian and we get “Your babies will be so cute thing” as well. I choose to take it how it’s meant, as a compliment:)

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